"A soldier doesn't fight because he hates what is in front of him. A soldier fights because he loves what he left behind." - unknown

"God is our refuge and strength. He will protect us and make us strong" (ps 46:1). For those who will fly today, for those who are there now, and for those who will soon join the fight, Lord, shield them from all evil, strengthen their hearts, and bring them home safely.

Monday, March 12, 2012

Encouraged Ignorance

There are times when I wonder how people can have such a skewed perception of soldiers. How some people can think that they all are messed up in the head, that they are cold, uneducated, unable to think on their own. Most of the time I just can't understand how so many Americans can lump all soldiers into one stereotype. 

Most of the time.

Then there are days like today when ONE soldier commits a horrendous act against humanity and the line is blurred. There are days like today when I see what I saw on a major news network this morning and I have to turn it off because of how sick it makes me feel. There are days like today when an "expert" gives his "professional opinion" on why evil has taken place at the hand of an American soldier.

Because then it makes sense. Then I can understand why some people ask me if I am scared my husband is going to snap on me, or if I worry about him around our children. If I worry that he may kill me in his sleep. Then I understand why some people think our soldiers are broken.

Because someone, with some degree, and some title that people think matters gets ten minutes of airtime spent talking about how just being crammed into a vehicle causes PTSD, and how one tour of duty causes EVERY soldier - "in (his) professional opinion"- to suffer from PTSD, how any soldier has the potential to become a murderer at any time, how soldiers cannot separate threat from innocent women and children, how we have to be prepared for soldiers to "snap" at any time. How our soldiers cannot re-integrate into society. How they don't know how to "be" civilians anymore. 

And at no point in this interview - that seemed to last far too long (and I didn't watch it all) - were there the words "some" or "few" or "at times". It was always definitives, always communal language, always inclusive. Not "some", not "a minute amount", not "in rare occasions", not even just "often."  

Listening to this "professional," should have made me fear my husband. Should have made me question if he should be around our children. Should have made me look at him as a "potential murderer." 

That's disgusting. It's disrespectful. It's harmful and contagious and offensive.

Because he was convincing in his language. He is a "professional" on one of the largest news stations in the world receiving ample air time and never once being questioned on his wording. 

If he is going to call my husband a "potential murderer" well, it must be true. 

Surely our society - or those who broadcast it - doesn't have such a strong distaste for our service men and women. Surely no one would encourage this view of our soldiers - encourage such ignorance.

Because that would be horrible and wrong. 

My husband is a servant -  who, YES, has seen horrible things - things he will never forget. He lived through them and now he holds his children tighter. He loves his family fiercer. He defends his nation against the horrors he has seen in other countries so that our innocent eyes never see them here. He has seen a bullet-filled, maggot-ridden toddler left dead in her bed in another country, by a foreign enemy, and he has vowed to never let that be an American daughter. He has made the decision between life and death and saved the men that he was responsible for, that he promised to bring home. 

He has buried his comrades. He has held their parents, their spouses, their children.

That doesn't make him broken. 

It makes him someone that this worldly place cannot understand. 

It makes him selfless. 

How dare the world be told any different. 


  1. Amen. This is very true and hits hoe quite a bit! Thank you for posting this! I want to share it with other who criticize what our soldiers do and what they've been through!

  2. Again, thanks to your husband for all he has given, witnessed and vowed to do for our country. I cannot imagine, and thankfully, because of men and women like you and your husband, I will not have to.

  3. I am the wife of an Army Soldier. We have been married for 14 1/2 years. He has served in the Army the entire time. Right now he is in Afghanistan, he's been there for 9months. Recently he came home for R&R and yes he was a little Different, but not once did I ever fear him if anything it made me love him more and listen closer to what he wanted to tell me. There is not a soldier out there that can go through all this and not be affected. These people have no idea what is going on with our soldiers because they have never walked a mile in their boots. I'm so happy you wrote this post, we as military spouses need to stand together and get this message out there. Thank you for your kind words for our military and may God bless you and your Family.

    1. THANK YOU, Angel eyes!! May God bless you and YOURS!

      Safety to your soldier and strength to you!!


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