"A soldier doesn't fight because he hates what is in front of him. A soldier fights because he loves what he left behind." - unknown

"God is our refuge and strength. He will protect us and make us strong" (ps 46:1). For those who will fly today, for those who are there now, and for those who will soon join the fight, Lord, shield them from all evil, strengthen their hearts, and bring them home safely.


Friday, February 18, 2011

Promises

Today I was thinking about what a soldier would look like on paper and this is where it brought me.

A Soldier's Promise ...

I cannot promise you every night of my life. I cannot promise to be beside you for every difficult moment, every trial, every hardship. In truth, I can promise you that I will not be with you for most. I will leave you at inconvenient times. I may miss the births of our children. Any special date to us may be tainted with the anniversary of the death of one of my friends. I will ask you to take over whatever life we have built together for months and years at a time. And will then crash back into that life that you have used your sweat and your tears and your heartache to keep together and try to take it back as I knew it before. I will shut you out at times because it will be the best way for me to hold it together at that moment. I will lie to you. I will tell you I don't know things when I do. I will not always tell you where I am going, when I will be back, or who I am with. I may not call you for weeks and months and you will not be able to call me. You will ask questions that I won't answer. You will know answers to questions that you will hope you never need. I will share things with my brothers that you will never understand. They will know things about me that you never will. They will be a support to me in some things that you cannot be. I will miss birthdays. I will miss anniversaries. I will have to get to know our children over and over again. I may need time to process things that seem natural to everyone else. It will seem that someone - or something - will always take precedence over you. You may lose me long before you ever thought possible. I will uproot you and ask you to re-establish our family anywhere in the world, in any season, at any time - over and over again. Sand and mud will be tracked through your halls from the boots I am too tired to take off. I will leave you when you beg me not to. I will stand at attention while you cry beside me. I will not turn my head and I will walk away. I will knowingly break your heart. And I will do it again - and again.

I cannot promise you all of me. I cannot promise that to our children. I cannot promise you much of anything.

But if you will have me, I can promise that as I march away from you it is not without sharing your heartache. I promise you that every time I break your heart I will be breaking mine. Every time that I cannot answer you I will be protecting you. Whenever you want to call and you have no number to dial I will be wanting to do the same. I will protect everything that we have created together with every fiber of my being while you do the same back at home. I will honor you in everything - every moment that we are apart and every moment that I am with you. I will fight harder and push further knowing that I do so for you. I will see the faces of our children in every life that I protect. And I will carry you with me in everything until my sandy boots once again sit just inside our door.

An Army Wife's promise ...

I cannot promise that I will not become frustrated when you leave me and the world seems to fall apart around me. I cannot promise that I will not curse those who sent you when the dryer breaks, and the transmission needs to be replaced, and the dog eats the couch all in the same week - most likely the week after you deploy. I cannot promise that the sand and mud that cakes my floor will not cause me to give you harsh looks and rude thoughts. I cannot promise that my heart will not be torn in twelve different ways when you march away from me. I cannot promise that I will not let my anger show when you refuse to answer questions. I cannot promise to understand why you share things with your comrades that you will not share with me. I cannot promise that there won't be times when my heartache makes its presence known before my pride can mask it. I cannot promise that I will not show my worry and my concern when it is best for you not to see it. I cannot promise to understand why you do so many of the things you do.

But I can promise that for as many tears of sadness and frustration and anger that are shed there will be double that of tears of pride. I can promise you that for every time you are away from me, I will learn to cherish the times that you are with me. In everything I will honor you and honor your sacrifice. I can promise to teach our children to do the same. I will use every moment that you are not with them to show them the amazing man that you are through my actions and my pride. I can promise that there will never be a night where you are not the subject of my final prayer and the keeper of my dreams. I promise to try to be understanding that there are many things I will never understand. I promise to keep you with me in everything and to do my best to keep grace in this life. I will be strong for you as you are strong for me and I will carry you with me in every moment until your sandy boots again sit just inside our door.

Written by: Megan Williams
© 2011, all rights reserved
Do not use without permission.


(These have also been circulating as "A Military Man's Promise" and "A Military Wife's Promise")

79 comments:

  1. Beautiful. And so true. I think most women would find being the wife of a soldier incredibly frustrating, which is why I truly believe this lifestyle is a calling.

    Please feel free to read my blog, whenever. We military wives have to stick together. ;)

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    1. i'm a military kid and i think it's incredibly inspirational that you made a blog and my mum has been on it quite a lot so thank you

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    2. I am a Military sons mother, this brought a tear to my eyes, both my son and daughter-in-law are both in Afghan thank you so much for sharing this with us I salute you xxxxx

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    3. I am a military Mum god its so hard when he is away, more so this year as he just got married back in Aug 2013, both him and his wife are both in Afghan at the moment, missing them lots. reading this brought a tear to my eyes, thank you so much for sharing I Salute you xxx <3

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  2. Adrienne, I have just started reading. Very beautifully written. I look forward to reading more. We do need to stick together!!

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  3. Wow! My husband just left a week and a half ago and this is my first deployment :( This made me cry...and I don't cry much! So far this is one of the hardest things I know I will go through!! I'm so glad that I have a family of women who understand :)

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    1. im going through this for the first time to I sleep with his picks and my phone in my hand on loud my husband has been gone 1 year and 3 monthe s so far and has another 4 - 6 months to go its very hard I cry my self to sleep every night , but I don't have any one else to help me my husband is an airborn 12 combat my name is cindy franke

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    2. im going through my first deployment with my new husband too he is a airborn 12 combat he haS BEEN GONE 1 YEAR AND 3 MONTHS SO FAR AND WILL BE GONE ANOTHER 4-6 MONTHS ITS VERY HARD I SLEEP WITH HIS PICS AND MY PHONE IN MY HAND
      I CRY MY SELF TO SLEEP EVERY NIGHT AND MOST DAYS ALL DAY LONG , BUT I CHERRISH WHEN HE CALLS ME OR EMAILS ME OR WE TALK ON WEB CAM FOR
      30 MINUTES FROM CINDY FRANKE

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    3. Cindy, I am so sorry! I just saw these comments! Please know you can email anytime that you need to talk. You can find my email at the bottom of the page. Safety to your soldier and strength to you!

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  4. We have all been there, or are there now, or know that we will be soon. You are never alone in this!! It is so important to know that. Safety to your husband. It will be one of the hardest things you have ever done - but you will be so much stronger once you are through it. : )

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  5. Very touching. Thank you for sharing. So true!

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  6. After 20 years in this fight, I could not have said it better as I read through wiping the tears. My husband has now served in two branches and each having two differnt types of battles, but one war; the journies and sentiments are always the same. You always find the right words to convey.

    Thank you Megan!

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  7. Hearing that from you means more to me than you could ever know. Thank you, Wendy.

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  8. Oh so true, yet again! Thanks Megan!

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  9. This put a lump in my throat. I couldn't ring more true. Amazing.

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  10. So True! My husband is no longer enlisted but this still made me tear up.

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  11. My fiance' is deploying in either June or September and this is reminds me that he will feel the same pain I will when he walks away from me. I printed this out and have it taped to my bedroom mirror as a reminder. Thank you!

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  12. Jamie, that makes me so happy! Thank you!

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  13. Oh my gosh... This is amazing... I am engaged to a man that is in the National Guard.. I am also carrying his child which is due July 4th.. He is set to deploy in 2012 month and day not for sure possibly a few months after his son is born.. I have no one to talk to about things like how to deal with some stuff, how to make it with out the man of my dreams, or how to be strong for our son... But this has really made me a million times more proud of my fiance then I was before. Thank you..
    (If anyone wants to talk it would be nice to hear from someone that knows where I'm coming from. Look me up on facebook. Rebecka Lane Reeves..)

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  14. I am so very glad it helps you and I will be remembering your husband in my prayers. I will say that when you do know that month and date don't post it. It is always better not to put that info out on the internet.

    I am trying to find a National Guard Spouse blogger to link to for spouses just like you! Its a new project I am working on so if you come across one I would appreciate an email about it! I hope once its up that can provide more help. Thank you husband for his service for me!

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  15. Thank you. I sometimes forget the sacrifics he also feels. This was so well written. It is now printed and sitting by my desk to remind me not to take for granted the little things.

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  16. Beautifully written! I have been so focussed on my girls and helping them cope, I think I forgot what it felt like from my side. Thank you! My goal this deployment year to to blog on how to help the kiddies cope. But its really good to read this!

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  17. Thank you, Hannah! It is so easy to focus so much on how our kids are doing that we rarely stop and process how WE are doing. We can't help them if we aren't being sure we are "checking" on ourselves as well.

    I have browsed your blog and I LOVED when you talked about the cookies with your daughter. I can relate to that so much.

    If anyone would like to check it out here is the url to that post:

    http://www.theprofessionalbaby.com/?p=395

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  18. Hello lovely! I just read your post over at the HUN, and you did an awesome job! I am also apart of the HUN site and think your an awesome contributor!

    I look forward to reading more from you!

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  19. Thank you! I just joined the HUN. It seems like a great site in the making! Thank you for reading.

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  20. Rebecka--

    I tried looking you up on FB, but couldn't find you. My husband is National Guard as well, also deployed to Afghanistan since last July. We too had a baby girl just 6 weeks old hen he left. I'd love to answer any questions you might be having or to be a shoulder to lean on while he's away. Guard is a bit different of an experience in my book. Hope you get this. Look for me Lorena Popelka on FB if you want to connect.

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  21. I want to thank you for writing this. My words cannot say the effect it had on me, but I truly want to thank you for this.
    JS

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  22. JS, I am so very glad it touched you. Thank you so very much for sharing. I hope you will keep reading and you are always welcome to email me!

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  23. I don't know how I missed this post, but I am so glad I found it. Just starting our third deployment, this is what I needed tonight. I will be sharing this with my friends that need to see it too. You really do know how to write what we all feel.

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  24. I am nearing the end of my first deployment with the love of my life. We have 1 month, 2 weeks and two days left until his return. I needed to read this. Many people ask me everyday how I am doing and I look at them and say, "Army strong." I get home and I cry, just a little somedays, a lot more on other days, but my Army sisters keep me strong!!! Beautifully expressed and thank you.

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  25. Thank you, Christina! One day at a time.

    Amy, YAY for the homestretch! Thank you for reading! Safety to your soldier.

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  26. Would you mind if I reposted this on my blog? It's so very touching, I would love to share it with the other Army families that I know. I would, of course, give you FULL credit for writing it, and also link back to the original post and your blog!

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  27. Kris, I got your email. Shot you one back!

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  28. This is absolutely wonderful and so touching.. do you sell anything with this on/in it (picture frame, blanket ect)

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  29. Thank you so much! I don't sell anything yet. I am working on prints and will get them up as soon as I do! Thank you for asking!

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  30. I cried when I first read this. It brought so many tears of memory of deployments and training. Amazing post!!!

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  31. Thank you for hitting the nail on the head!

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  33. This just hurt my heart beyond what I can say. If you will notice the date this was published, you will understand this is my work. Written while my husband was stationed in Kandahar over this past year.

    I know how much this is circulating and I know that other people have claimed it. Shame on them.

    I hold no anger with you for defending who you think to be the author. The way you feel is the same way I have felt as I have seen it all over the Internet this past week - seven months after I wrote it. I hope you will understand that this is mine. Written through the tears - in a single sitting. My husband has served - selflessly - for fourteen years. I would never shame him or myself by claiming someone else's work as my own. I think this is the promise of every soldier and every wife. The promise belongs to every military couple.

    As far as the words are concerned, they are mine. I encourage you to look through this blog, read our life, and know that this speaks about the journey we are proud to share.

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  34. Dear Annonymous,
    You are VERY mistaken with your words. The shame is with you and whomever has told you they used Megan's words as their own. I know this to be so for two reasons. The first: I was one of the first to read "Promises" MONTHS ago!!! The second: When Megan speaks of husbands missing the births of children, she was thinking of me(she even has a blog post about it, incase you need further evidence). My husband was not home for the birth of our daughter. Megan was. She held my hand for 8 months of my pregnancy. Through blood pressure issues to Gall Stones. She stayed with me for hours at the hosptial, chewed at staff for being morons, and never let me feel alone. She held my hand one more time the night my daughter was born. My cell phone rang, and she told me he's here. My husband was calling from Afghanistan. I don't remember a lot from the moments after, but I do remember my dear friend looking up and saying, "push one more time." The simplest of words, but just what I needed. So before you accuse someone of being a cheat, thief, and morally corupt, you should check your source and be sure you know what YOU ARE talking about.
    To my dear friend Megan,
    Do not let words from mistaken people hurt you. You are an amazing mother and wife. You are my amazing best friend, and I love you.
    Casey

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  35. I can assure that this is from my heart. This is from the love and experience between my husband and I over our marriage - spent entirely in the military life.

    I do not doubt that similar thoughts were shared between a soldier and his spouse. I hope what I wrote in this piece is shared between ALL service members and their spouses. I don't think we would have such a high caliber of men and women serving our country if they did not have these same thoughts and emotions and trials. That is what makes us strong, what calls us to this life, what keeps us in it.

    I applaud you for defending this soldier and his wife. I can tell you in this moment, I know exactly how they felt when their words were being shared. Betrayed. Deeply saddened. Defenseless. Thank you, for coming to their defense. I can find no wrong-doing in that.

    Please understand, these Promises, were not inspired by reading their letters, nor have I ever seen them or heard them. I can assure you I would never change any wording between a soldier and his spouse and claim it as my own. I would never take from the depth of love between two people who serve and twist it into something as mine. I wouldn't need to. I have that same love and respect and admiration for my own spouse. I have faced these trials, I have seen these struggles. I have LIVED through them. These words are mine - from my heart alone - but what they say could be said by any of us.

    Again, thank you for coming to this couple's defense, years down the road. I hope, with my shaking hands, I have brought peace to your heart and to your mind.

    Thank you for you service - whether past or present - and thank you for doing what you felt in your heart to be right.

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  36. Dear Megan,

    I have been a faithful reader of your blog for over a year now. I have cried and laughed and cried some more as your words resonate with every fiber of my being. I feel that it is time to let you know how much your willingness to share your family's story with your readers has meant to me.

    I am not a military wife, but I am the proud sister of a Marine. I do not know what it is like to have to move my family cross country to a new base, to spend a year without the father of my children, to wait for life-changing news alone. I do know what it means to love someone who willingly sacrifices for something beyond himself, to hear a knock at the door and wonder if life as you know it has changed forever, to have your pride and joy tempered with sadness because your loved one has come home but his buddy did not.

    Your ability to express in words what it means to love someone in the military has been such a blessing to me and I have often found myself sharing links to your blog as a way to give others a glimpse into this life.

    I remember reading "Promises" in the days after my brother had returned from Afghanistan and feeling a renewed sense of purpose and duty not only to my brother, but to all of his brothers and sisters in arms. While the heart of "Promises" belongs to countless military families, the words are yours and yours alone. Anyone who has followed your blog for any length of time knows this and does not need to be persuaded.

    As my family prepares to embark on another deployment journey and the uncertainty that comes with it, I am reminded of the promises we have made to each other. No matter what lies ahead, we will face it with grace and determination, tears and strength. This is my duty. This is my promise. This is what it means to love a Warrior.

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  37. Amy,

    I wish I could email you personally at this moment. On what has been an incredibly emotional last fews hours, your brought the tears back to my eyes. Thank you for those tears.

    Your words are beautiful. Your kindness touches deeper than you can know. Thank you for this. I wish i could say more than that.

    Thank you for the obvious love you have for your brother. Thank you for supporting him and your family in this life. Thank you for wanting to help others to understand it better. Thank you for taking the time to share our story.

    I cannot tell you how grateful I am that you came forward. How grateful I am for all the support I have received so quickly. It has been overwhelming how kind people have been - here, on FB, through email, texts, and phone calls.

    Your brother will be in my prayers. Your family will be in my prayers. Your brother is very blessed to have such support. Thank you, thank you, thank you, Amy! Thank you for taking a moment to share this.

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  38. Dear Anonymous, I think you need some help here with plagiarism. Plagiarism: The act of appropriating the literary composition of another, or parts or passages of his writings, or the ideas or language of the same, and passing them off as the product of one’s own mind. To be liable for plagiarism it is not necessary to exactly duplicate another’s literary work, it being sufficient if unfair use of such work is made by lifting of substantial portion thereof, but even an exact counterpart of another’s work does not constitute plagiarism if such counterpart was arrived at independently. This is out of Black's Law 5th Edition page 1035. If that exact edition is handy in your JAG office. You have taken the law and twisted it your way. So let's get it striaght, I believe this to be the work of Megan. I believe she came to this work of art on her own, but from the experience of being a military wife. Our feeling and experiences can closely reflect each others. So does this mean I am plagerising someone elses life? My life as a military wife is wonderful, scary, lonely, exciting, an any other emotion you can think of. An I LOVE it, I love knowing that all this an more are felt by my fellow wives. That all I have to say is how I am feeling and they can echo those sentiments. For I am not alone, I just need to voice it. So by your own words, her blog is 75% of what someone else wrote, just re-worded and changed up some. That sounds to me not like plagiarism, but the echoing hearts of thousands of wives everywhere. Their are just those few who know how to put it all so beautifully into words. Megan does that so well for me. I am willing to bet, that if you compare military wives blogs. You will fine a common thread more often then you imagine. Which I am sure this letter you have read and this blog you have read have in common. Most everything that Megan writes, I can relate to on some level. The highest of those for me was the fear level. When she wrote The Doorbell it was like she looked inside me. She put it all down in her writing, an I could relate to it 100%. It is all the things I have said and felt. Funny thing is I have never said it to her until now. Thank you Megan for all the stories you write.
    Michele

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  39. Michele,

    Thank you so very much for your kindness and comment. We do all feel the same things so there can be no surprise that someone else has voiced the same ideas.

    For someone to accuse me of taking them is beyond heartbreaking. I cannot tell you how much it upsets C. This has been a rough period of time.

    People like you have comforted my heart more than you can know. Thank you for "choosing your purpose" in this moment. You have done more good than you can know. Thank you, Michele.

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  40. Dear anonymous,

    I am sure that you believe the soldier and wife you are referring to were the first to ever write down their feelings toward each other in this 'promises' format. The fact that Megan expressed her own thoughts and feelings this way does NOT constitute plagiarism. Unless, of course, the letter you are talking about has the same details as Megan's, including tainted anniversaries and tracking dirt everywhere.

    Since you are so well informed on the subject, could you please point us all in the direction of a sample of this letter you are referring to, or some case where it has been credited to the young man you are talking about?

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  41. This spoke straight to my heart. I often feel so sorry for myself that I forget to consider what he might be going through. I am new to the military wife world and while my husband has not been deployed we have been living on opposite ends of the country for the last year and it looks like there is yet another year of training ahead of us.
    Thank you for your beautiful and thoughtful words.

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  42. Megan,
    I started my "military wife" blog after 8 years of trying to explain to my civilian friends what it's like. I try to give an accurate depiction of what life is really like for me. Like so many other readers have said, ALL of us military wives who have husbands who've deployed over, and over, and over again, those of us who've been left alone to deliver a child, or raise a newborn alone, those of us who've cried themselves to sleep at night because the husband of a close friend was wounded or killed, those of us who force a smile because we haven't heard from our husband in days, or weeks, we are the ones who know. We KNOW. And we could literally finish each other's sentences because we know what the other is going through. We know EXACTLY how the other feels. We live each other's lives, we walk in each other's shoes.

    Shortly after starting my blog, I came across yours. You've inspired me, because our lives are a parallel. But it is not copying, not theft, not what other's have accused you of. We military wives are sisters of the soul searching for some understanding and acceptance in a world where fear should rule, but instead hope does. The words of "Promises" are yours. And for those of us who walk the same path as you, they are our words too.

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  43. Mixedbeans - thank you! I hope his training goes quickly and he returns to you soon! Thank you for your devotion to him and please thank him for his service from me.

    Stephanie, I saw your blog. I commented. THank you so so so very much for your kindness and support. Your words are so very truthful. Thank you, thank you!

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  44. My Australia Army boyfriend just sent this to me on facebook. Your words said by any soldier ring true no matter where in the world they are from. My partner may be getting deployed next year but he has been on many trips around the world that go anywhere from a week to 8 weeks and always seems to land on one of our birthdays or on our anniversary.

    Thank you for writing this, I have saved it to my computer to remind myself to be strong xx

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  45. Samantha! I saw that this was being read by people on your side of the world. My husband worked with NATO troops from all over this past deployment - including Australians. I was so excited to see that this has reached there. Thank you so very much for commenting. It was wonderful to hear from you!! Safety to your soldier, strength to you!

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  46. Hi

    This is beautiful, they are both beautiful and so true for the life us and our loved ones live. We would like to contact you, if you could please email us at forgetmeknotluvables@hotmail.com we would greatly appreciate it.

    Thanks so much for sharing, your words have touched many
    xx

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  47. Thanks for sharing !! Love it...

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  48. I am a new military wife. I love your blog and even started my way to a military life. My husband is in basic training and only takes two months and I feel like I have my heart. I admire each of you for supporting your troops and stand every day. megan good work

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  49. Thank you both for commenting!

    New Military Wife - WELCOME!! I cannot tell you how rewarding this life is - difficult, challenging - but so very rewarding!

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  50. This is BEAUTIFUL. I love it. So sorry to hear that it has been circulating without proper credit being given back to you.

    Just know that the words you write here POSITIVELY affect so many, and even if the readers of your "promises" stories don't know who wrote it, I'm sure they are touched and glad that someone could express what they never could. You're in my prayers!!!

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  51. It is the most amazing, touching, sweetest poem i have ever read!

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  52. My husband is deployed and I posted this to his wall- I included the link back to here because I couldn't for some reason tag your page- I hope this is ok, if not please let me know so I can remedy that.


    Kacy

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    1. THANK YOU for sharing it, SgtsWifey!! That is PERFECTLY fine and I GREATLY appreciate you sharing the link. Thank you!

      Safety to your husband and strength to you!

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  53. This is the most beautiful poem relating to the love of a Man & Woman with the roles of either party defending their country as a soldier.
    As I freshly walk through the open door of falling in love with the Defender of Freedom, these "Promises" prepare me for what lies ahead, and confirmed everything I new in my heart I was willing to face, sacrifice.... and embrace.

    Thank you.

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    1. I am so very grateful for your comment, Brandi! My thoughts are with you!

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  54. Absolutely heartbreaking, touching, and true. Love this!

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  55. Thank you for this ! <3

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  56. Positively beautiful, and definately captures the essence of a military marriage. My husband and I just celebrated our 4th anniversary, I thank God everyday that I have him here with me and that he made it back safely from his last deployment. Thoughts, prayers and smiles to all my "sister soldiers", keep your heads up girls our men need us just as we need them <3

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  57. This is absolutely beautiful and honestly made me cry. As an Air Force Brat not only did I go through a lot but I watched my parents make this life work. I am now going to school to counsel veterans with PTSD and have a boyfriend in the Army. I love the military lifestyle and the love and support from the military community. I love your blog and I will definitely be a frequent visitor :)

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  58. Recent my love was deployed. The wound is so fresh and I saw this and cried my eyes out. I'm writing letters to him everyday and arch things because we made that promise. I also think I nearly drowned my computer in tears. But this helped me understand that I'm just at the beginning.

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  59. 34 years my father has served.. How many goodbyes said.. Too many.. Missed moments.. Countless.. Since 17 him and my mother have made this life work.. At 51 they still hold hands each moment they get.. And hold back tears with each goodbye.. Early 2013 he came home from Afghanistan.. A husband, father, grandfather, brother, son, cousin, friend, soldier, officer ... Unknown American hero.. This poems amazing as with military life & love comes military miserable moments.. Remember why & stay proud & if you accept the life you make it work.. Its harder than other relationship strains in ways we hear but even as a child with front row seat my whole life I'll never understand the strength in the spouse.. You guys are hero holding it down keepin it home, being married through the phone, countless nights spent alone.. When the assignments done and my dad comes back, the only person to make mom smile like that.. The pride inside to know that stand up man, Soldier all his life, but found a way to make it work, since 17, same career same wife.. This poems beautifully written touching things most dont think or know goes on to be hurt over, or stressed, or unforgiving.. Military marriage (as is civilian in different areas) is something most people cant do.. Distance, jealousy, assumptions and self pride.. All young spontanious marriages wether one or both be military should read this and decide can they live with never knowing somethings, step up when the others called to step out.. Very deep and touching.. This goes beyond the surface smiles and sorry, he'll be safe and home soon auto play responses from 'friends' As brave as they who serve as are all you spouses you fill the role while their gone on top of dealing with where sent.. You should all be just as proud of yourselves.. Im proud of who my parents are and thank you all for seving, home or away when duty calls, your spouse dont answer alone.. So a big thanks to the hometeam I appreciate you work and admire your strength.. Thank you for sharing these touching words with us.. Just beautiful..

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  60. Hi Megan,

    Just read your poem. It is beautiful indeed !! Just brought tears to my eyes and touched my heart from within. Thank you for having it here for me and many others to read.

    I am an Indian girl, not a military wife though. But in love with a military guy. He is in Indian Army. I'm so proud of him. After going through this, I realised what my man is going through. How lonely he feels even he is not deployed, but simply far from family and friends, facing it all by himself. Just wanna tell him, he is never alone. I'm always there for him.

    Reading this makes me love him more and more. How I wish him to have faith in my love and that I'm strong enough to deal with the kind of life I'll have if I get lucky enough to be a part of his life and that we both deserve each other and are perfect for each other. Just want him to have faith in ''US''. I'm dying every second of my life to get him back in my life. Staying away is way better than staying without the love of your life.

    Thanks and Regards,

    Sulinge

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  61. Wow!!! This is so beautiful! :)

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