Alright ladies and gents (yep, there are a few on here), I need your help. Let's talk about rank.
Yeah, that's right. I said the R-word. How do you feel about spouses and rank? Both among the spouses (wearing the rank, respecting the rank, etc) and spouses addressing soldiers. I want to hear your honest feelings about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING about rank. Remember to BE KIND and PATIENT with each other. No negativity towards one another here but I want to hear your experiences, your opinions. Are you automatically turned off by a spouse with a husband of a certain rank because you've had a bad experience? Do you turn to senior spouses for guidance? What are the positives? What are the negatives? What is hard to see past? What are your prejudgments? Let's be honest and open and real.
I had a convo about this a bit with our FRG's POC's and it was a VERY enlightening and interesting and civil discussion. I was truly amazed that we all sat and laughed and saw each other's view. I think we started to learn from each other.
Before it became more obvious in my writing, I cannot tell you how many people emailed asking C's rank. If that was any of you, you may have noticed I answered every single one of your questions EXCEPT that. Rank is touchy. Rank is something that can put up walls. It can make people form opinions before they get to know a person - it can prevent a person from getting to know a person.
Discussing rank is tricky. There are so many sides to it. So many different views.
I have been trying to write about this for sometime for the Homefront United Network. I see it as a challenge to "get this right" but, oh my, I don't know where to begin. So I am turning to you, what are your feelings? How do you see it?
Don't want people to know who you are when you respond? Respond ANONYMOUSLY this time around. If that makes you more comfortable, go for it. But I am challenging each of you to really take a few moments and think about it, be honest about it, listen to each other. I want everyone to get into this discussion but I don't want it to blow up and become a complain session.
Let me say that I WILL delete any comment that speaks ill towards another or degrades what someone else has said. You all know I don't delete comments even if they upset me personally (ahem ... that lil promises incident awhile back) but I won't hesitate if this becomes something it shouldn't. You know this is no place for that. I know some of you are shaking your heads, thinking I'm nuts for this. You are probably right. But I believe we can hear each other. I believe we can learn from one another. I believe each of us, married to service-members of ALL ranks, has something to bring to this.
Let's learn from each other.
Here's an example of something that came up in the discussion I had with our new POC's. One said, "All the FRG meetings are just for the officer spouses. They are the only ones who come." They laughed when I said that officer spouses will always be at events because they are always "highly-encouraged" to attend. Anyone know what "highly-encouraged" in the army means? ; )
It means you attend.
Remember to be kind! LISTEN to one another! (Oh, PLEASE don't let this blow up in my face!)
Ready, Set, GO!
"A soldier doesn't fight because he hates what is in front of him. A soldier fights because he loves what he left behind." - unknown
"God is our refuge and strength. He will protect us and make us strong" (ps 46:1). For those who will fly today, for those who are there now, and for those who will soon join the fight, Lord, shield them from all evil, strengthen their hearts, and bring them home safely.