tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484957168950195936.post2226723172931963199..comments2023-05-27T07:53:58.584-05:00Comments on To Love a Soldier: Reintegration Series - Part 1To Love a Soldier...http://www.blogger.com/profile/03672150426036117704noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484957168950195936.post-48606186467040586302011-03-10T19:31:29.078-06:002011-03-10T19:31:29.078-06:00I think a journal is a great idea! Another reader ...I think a journal is a great idea! Another reader messaged me saying the same thing.To Love a Soldier...https://www.blogger.com/profile/03672150426036117704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484957168950195936.post-91167516198116894582011-03-10T19:27:17.679-06:002011-03-10T19:27:17.679-06:00I'll definitely be keeping a journal next time...I'll definitely be keeping a journal next time my husband gets deployed. This last time was his first deployment, and I can only imagine that they get harder as they go.SillyJaimehttp://www.jaime2pointoh.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484957168950195936.post-67782941873418035442011-03-10T08:28:26.969-06:002011-03-10T08:28:26.969-06:00Thank you both for sharing your thoughts. This is ...Thank you both for sharing your thoughts. This is a tough subject - and one people often don't think about. Thank you for being honest and adding to the conversation.<br /><br />MFLC is a GREAT program the army offers. They are counselors that rotate out around the country from one post to another. It does have limits to how often you can speak to the counselors but they can set you up with a permanent counselor if necessary. You remain completely anonymous - no names or info is recorded. I know several spouses who have used them and it has been very helpful. This can be a great first step in getting through reintegration if you are having problems.To Love a Soldier...https://www.blogger.com/profile/03672150426036117704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484957168950195936.post-23148550759365160612011-03-09T22:35:27.464-06:002011-03-09T22:35:27.464-06:00If your husband does come back changed then you di...If your husband does come back changed then you did lose something too. Just because he came back home in one piece physically doesn't mean he didn't lose another aspect of himself. You need to let yourself mourn (I know that sounds odd) the loss of that and then, and only then can you start to rebuild. <br /><br />I found a lot of help by seeing a counselor during this current deployment. I was experiencing panic and anxiety attacks and on the verge of depression. She helped me realize that I was greiving the loss of my husband and the fear I had of something happening to him was consuming me. <br /><br />Like you said, half the battle is the deployment not only for the soldier but also for the loved ones on the homefront. You should never feel guity about the way you feel but having the appropriate outlet is sooo important. You want to support your husband and by doing that we need to take care of ourselves first. <br /><br />I hope your husband can find peace in what he has experienced, and your life can return to some kind of normalcy. But always know you are not alone and there are resources out there for both of you. ((hugs))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8484957168950195936.post-38096234214295651032011-03-09T22:19:20.508-06:002011-03-09T22:19:20.508-06:00It does change them. It changes the ones left behi...It does change them. It changes the ones left behind as well. When they come back wounded (physical or emotional...and often both), there is SO much to deal with.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com